Hello world,

I am starting this blog on behalf of all men, I know one can find just about anything written about women and women’s experience, but there are no voice for the common man whom loves their children, values life and more importantly cherishes family and good friends, we have the passion of dogs, but we are not all dogs, what I mean by that is that we are loyal and committed to  these things that are self-evident. I am going to write freely with no filter, those of you whom are offended, get over it, we have constitutional laws regarding my freedom of speech, if you do not like what I write, then don’t read it, in the famous words of a few good men;

“You can’t handle the truth”

I plan on trying this purely as a social experiment, after going through a divorce many years ago, my counselor was right, writing your thoughts in indeed therapeutic, so hang on to your tampons, diapers, etc, this is going to get real!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I plan on writing about my experiences in daily life, trials,tribulations, observations and weird ass shit I see or that people say, it is a crazy dysfunctional world we live in, and someone has to say this…

I have paid so much more attention to the world of women lately these days, and I owe that to my wonderful daughter, I love her and I am deathly afraid of the world that will influence her outside of my time with her. I fear the day She comes home and ask me for a pair of clear, plastic heels, or I turn on the TV and there my princess is doing an infomercial lifting her tank top up for “Girls gone Wild”!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can only think of when I arrive at the check out line at the store and every magazine is either Kim kardashian or a blond hair, blue eyed, size two actress. Who set these standards and why are men always being blamed for womens self image??? There are not average guys like me making the decision of whom should be on these covers,,, most of the time its pale,male and stale or females whom have their own psychological issues with body image and project it on to the world. My case and point, I attend as many events for my daughter as possible, even as a cardiologist, I find myself usually one of two or three guys at the event, the rest of course are women usually females, late twenties, in their thirties or early forties, while looking out at my daughter playing I overhear some of the mothers commenting on how that third grader is “sooo Chubby” This makes me wonder, is that what superficial women spend their time with? I can confess to you that us fathers, none of us are commenting about the chubby girls, their hair, shoes, fashion sense, etc. we just love to watch them in their natural habitat, clummsy, awkward and angelic, who knows, those “chubby” little girls can grow up to be swans as teenagers that us dads are so proud of.

I coined a new phrase today, Girl on Girl Violence that can be physical, emotional, mental and social. since women don’t tend to pick physical fights my observations are that they spend most of their time in the emotional, mental and social girl on girl violence. My new word I learned today is “relational aggression”

Take a look, I know you have seen some of these women out there, as adults, not children yet they are very much, “mean Girls”

Jump to: navigation, search Relational aggression, also known as covert aggression,[1] or covert bullying[2] is a type of aggression in which harm is caused through damage to one’s relationships or social status.[2][3] Although it can be used in many contexts and among different age groups, relational aggression among adolescents, in particular, has received a lot of attention with the help of popular media including movies like Mean Girls and books like Odd Girl Out by R. Simmons (2003) and Queen Bees and Wannabes by R. Wiseman (2003). Relational aggression can have various lifelong consequences. Relational aggression has been primarily observed and studied among girls.[3]

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Overview[edit]Peers become increasingly significant in adolescence. Peer relationships are especially important for adolescents’ healthy psychological development: peers provide many new behavioral models and feedback essential for successful identity formation and development of one’s sense of self.[4][5] Interactions with peers encourage positive practice of autonomy and independent decision-making skills,[6] as well as are essential for healthy sexual development including the development of the capacity for intimate friendships and learning appropriate sexual behavior.[7] Peer relationships are also very important for determining how much adolescents value school, how much effort they put into it, and how well they perform in class.[8][9] However, quite frequently adolescents take part in peer relationships that are harmful for their psychological development. Adolescents tend to form various cliques and belong to different crowds based on their activity interests, music and clothing preferences, as well as their cultural or ethnic background.[10] Such groups differ in their sociometric or popularity status, which often create unhealthy, aggression-victimization based dynamics between groups. Different forms of aggression can also be used to control dynamics and sociometric status within a group. Sometimes aggression is directed to an individual rather than to any apparent social group. Primary reasons for victimization include looks and speech; adolescents are also frequently bullied because of a disability, particular ethnicity, or religion.[11][12]

Definition[edit]Relational aggression is defined as a type of aggression that is “intended to harm other adolescents through deliberate manipulation of their social standing and relationships.” [13] Relational aggression, according to Dan Olweus [14] is a type of bullying. Bullying in general, is defined as physically or psychologically violent re-occurring and not provoked acts, where the bully and victim have unequal physical strength or/and psychological power.[15] These key conditions apply to all types of bullying: verbal, physical, relational.[14]

Forms[edit]The main three forms of relational aggression include:[13]

Excluding others from social activities;
Damaging victim’s reputations with others by spreading rumors and gossiping about the victim, or humiliating him/her in front of others;
Withdrawing attention and friendship.
Psychological manipulation and coercion can also be considered as a type of relational aggression.Most recent research has been focusing on cyber-bullying, which is a relatively new yet increasingly popular way of engaging in both verbal and relational aggression due to growing importance of various communication and technology devices in modern societies.[16] Some studies show that internet meanness is more common among girls than boys.[12]

THe above was an academic explanation of my experience, now here is reality, while finishing morning report I witnessed relational aggression, While sitting and listening in on an all “chick” conversation, I felt like a voyer of sorts as it was a feeling of looking through a keyhole of a door while many of the girls in the room started to attack one of my associates going through a very difficult time in her life, two lovely children and going through a divorce, having been through a very tough one during my life, I have empathy and compassion, the girls proceeded to talk her hair, cloths, personality, shoes, even her hair bun… Really? considering most of them have extensions,…They have no right, I remember sitting there thinking, “there is enough Horse hair up in this place to make seventeen hundred fur coats for Joe Nameth to have at next years superbowl!!!!!!!!!!!! Damn.

Anyway,, these are simply observations, I want to say this, much like alcoholics have moments of clarity, I believe that not all women are like this, I have so many wonderful women friends that I would take a bullet for, but,,,, I can also think of a small minority of women whom make life so difficult for all genders…..Kim Kardashian,Rosie O’Donnell,Monica Lewinski, Hilary Clinton

Be careful out there…..