1-What you tolerate and allow in your life is what you will get.

2-Take a stand: when someone shows you who they are, how little they care, manipulate you, walk away. The pain of walking away is far less than the pain of staying.

3-Never let people who abuse you continue to stomp on your heart and crush all your dreams. They are the problem, not you.

4 No one is coming to save you; Your life and success are 100% your responsibility.

5-Everything is easy when you are busy; nothing is easy when you are lazy.

6-Be cautious of those that are your friend when you are doing things that they only want you to do.

7-When you live by complacency, peer pressure, and always pleasing others, expect failure to be a permanent part of your life.

8-The person who is always smiling also lives in a lot of pain.

9-The more quiet I am, the more at peace I am.

10-You cannot find relationships; you build them with communication, kindness, respect, and consistency over time.

1-Some of the most successful people are also the same people that have had the most failures.

2-We don’t get what we want in life; we get what we believe. If we believe that we are not deserving, then that is how others see us. Our projection is, “I am not worthy, so what we believe is what we get.”

3- You don’t get what you deserve; you get what you negotiate.

4- A real man is built from difficult times, struggles, and reaching the troughs of life, so you have a visceral understanding of what it takes to build your life.

5-When things are not going well in life, remember your lens of reality is from your past harms, and you identify and see and believe yourself as not deserving. You will see yourself as what you believe; it will only be through letting go of your previous hurt self that you can ever reach your full potential of who you are.

6-Create your reality by letting go of your biased self and welcoming the discomfort of self-knowledge and personal growth.

7-Your self-worth is not contingent upon any one person except you.

8-Never push a peaceful person out of their peace.

9-Your most important life investment is in your physical and mental health. You can not have a home and be the parent you want to be without the former.

10-People who want the best for you want you to be the best.

1-Part of your personal growth and self-awareness is to find that part of yourself that can create the change to become the person you want to be, and we’re meant to be.

2-Men mean precisely what they say; there is no additional meaning in what we say.

3-Do not be fooled or impressed with my accomplishments. Listen to my struggles and my life stories.

4-Some of the most exceptional and mentally strongest people have been through hell.

5-So much of our society is not thinking about you; they are more concerned about what you think about them. We have become so addicted to others’ approval that we have lost ourselves in others.

6-Having the power of your life is letting go of your previous painful past and discovering the truth of who you really are. It’s letting go of all the energy you carried and invested in your comfortable past.

7-Surround yourself with individuals that will push you to be your better self. People that challenge you and believe in you bring you positive energy.

8-Treat yourself like someone you have loved.

9- If you want to accomplish things, spend time with big people. Small people accomplish small things, and big people accomplish great things.

10-Your purpose in life is unrelated to your job.

1-The two greatest barriers to success are lack of confidence and lack of self esteem.

2-Relationships are difficult when only one person is working on it.

3-I went through life never the most popular, or the most handsome, or the smartest, they were never obstacles to my future success, I am ok with that.

4-Adults should hold themselves accountable for their mistakes or failures

5-The corporate world does not prioritize ethics into success, it’s more based on who is the better to survive and rather the pure Darwinian ideology of only the strongest survive.

6-I have become a man that lives with very little regret in my life.

7-Never deprive yourself of experiences because you don’t see yourself as good enough

8-People that have not respected you, will also avoid you.

9-We need to enjoy today like today is all we have.

10-The only successful way to disarm an enemy is to listen to them.

1-Adversity builds character.

2- Today is just one page of one of the chapters of your life, there will be many more days and pages and chapters to your whole life story.

3-Men live in a fact based reality, your work ethics determines your success and your reality.

4-Not always getting everything in life, the job opportunities, the raise, the grades you wanted; those bad feelings are what teach you to enjoy the opportunities that arise from the lessons you learned, embraced and made you become a better version of yourself.

5- Where you place your attention is where you place your energy.

6-The same people that applaud you can also destroy you.

7-Never let the superficiality of praise drown out the value of your humility

8-Giving people the power to make you, also gives them the power to break you.

9-In terms of success, discipline is more important than motivation or intelligence.

10-You can be a very dangerous individual when you learn how to control your feelings.

1-Every one against you is not your enemy, and everyone who supports you is not your friend.

2-In the corporate world, silence in the work environment can be a strategy to hide the truth.

3-The person you are now is a composite of your experiences, resulting in where you are now.

4-Power doesn’t corrupt people; fools corrupt power.

5-If one is truly grateful for all of life, be thankful for all of it, both the good and the bad. You gain far more from the bad than the good; with unpleasant experiences comes an understanding of human
conditions.

6- I dislike diversity and inclusion as it relates to the corporate world: diversity underpinnings are having
Individuals that do not look the same, yet think the same. Inclusion has now become having individuals.
They look different yet have the same views. Nothing changes.

7-Never allow others that criticize or demean you to define you or your self-worth.

8-My most significant achievement in life is knowing who I am. I love what I have learned in life and the
Mistakes I have made. I don’t care to be anyone else but who I am and how I got here.

9- There will be forces throughout your life meant to shake you up, bury you, destroy you, annihilate
you, stand up, brush yourself off, and get back into the fight for control of your destiny.

10-Seek to be your authentic best; if you want to be someone else’s best, you allow yourself to be
Measured by others. Your best self is always measured by someone else; therefore, you can never reach
your best potential.

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1-Busy people understand busy people.

2-spend time and surround yourself with people you want to be like the most.

3-Sometimes the light that come from your heart will expose the darkness in the heart of others.

4- One of the major flaws of the American culture is an abundance of over educated dumb people.

5- You will work with and for individuals that have great power and influence and make decisions for the wrong set of reasons.

6-The downfall of all relationships is in-communicated expectations.

7-My greatest accomplishments:1) My children 2) Becoming a US citizen3) Self knowledge

8-Many times the best response to others is silence.

9-When you make others your emotional home, then you empower others to make you homeless.

10-Many individuals can only like you if you suppress yourself for them.

1-Remind yourself frequently that no one in the corporate world thinks or cares about you as much as you think they do; you are a fleeting thought in their minds.

2-You cannot be treated as an equal and as an exception at the same time. Wanting to be treated like this validates you are delusional.

3-You will have darkness in your life; it’s essential to always seek the light and not let darkness contaminate your heart.

4- Not everyone deserves your attention; your gift to them should be silence.

5-The lack of your best effort can be detrimental to yourself, your children, your family, and your community.

6-Become comfortable with the ideology that there are people in your circles that no matter what you do for them are miserable and will never be happy, be courageous enough to let them go.

7-Success is attained when you can work on days you are not inspired or motivated.

8-There is nothing more liberating when you reach a time when you realize how indifferent the rest of the world is to what you are doing in your life.

9- everyone on the globe is entirely engrossed in their own lives; you are an afterthought in most people’s minds.

10-Successful times build confidence and, in worst scenarios, arrogance. Difficult times build character.

1-Those around you have a right to their opinion; you also have a right to ignore them.

2-Your strength cannot be quantified by how much you have struggled; your strength is exemplified by how much you have overcome.

3- Far too many people hold on to past pains that continue to cloud their future emotional successes.

4- Seeing your life in certainties always ends in doubts: Seeing your life with doubts always ends in certainty.

5-Appreciate those experiences in your life you secretly wished never happened.

6- You will never have a time in your life where there are no problems: Problems are a constant; the variable or the “X” factor of issues in your life is how you confront them, fix them, and move on with your life.

7-The fundamental attribution error: I am not going to tell you the definition; look it up and think about this for a very long time: My lesson with this is that I will never be able to climb into someone’s mind to understand what their motivation may be for the words that come from their mouth, so I have learned to pay far more attention to their actions.

8- Do not take kindness for weakness; the same amount of kindness, the same amount of kindness people can give, it proportional to the same amount of chaos they can also provide. Those individuals that make a conscious effort to be kind and considerate can also teach you some very difficult lessons in life.

9- You will meet many that want your fruit of success; few have interest in the work, struggles, or sacrifice of success.

10- Success is something to study all your life. Many will doubt you and are frightened by you because you are the constant reminder in their lives of unfulfilled dreams, hopes, and aspirations; they were to afraid to pursue the opportunities or paths they chose not to pursue.

1-If two people in a home are the same, one is expendable.

2-If you want to keep getting what you get, keep doing exactly what you are doing.

3-When you find yourself in an argument, fight with data and facts; emotions can never trump data.

4-If you want to be an effective communicator, communicate your message without word salad, verbal diarrhea, or constipation of thoughts.

5- Since childhood, I have had career dysmorphia; society saw me as a pinto, yet deep inside, I always saw myself as an “Aston Martin.”

6-There are many that are not working towards the life they want; they are running away from a life they fear.

7- You will need to reach the bottom of your emotional valley to understand that if you want to be the person you are meant to be, you must let go of the person you have always been.

8-There may be times you say things based on what you feel; it does not make it true or accurate.

9-We live in a time where society is spending so much time fixing our exterior we forgot you change nothing if you don’t fix what is broken on the inside.

10-We are not a product of what people think and say about us; we are a product of what we believe about ourselves.