1-Time and time again throughout your life, you will see and experience humanity at its best and also at its worst.

2. A father must show love to his children; when others disrespect them, he must also have the capacity to become violent.

3-In some circles, telling the truth may be a liability.

4-Healing from your emotional scars is a choice that only you can make.

5-How others show up for you will elate you or disappoint you.

6-Your strength is observation without judgment.

7-Never invest time explaining yourself to those who have biased themselves against who you really are

8-If no one dislikes you, you have no authenticity.

9-Lack of action can be far more potent than words.

10–Know the line where fantasy ends, and reality begins.

1-Treat me with respect, and I will treat you with respect; treat me without respect, and I will acknowledge you; however, I will not engage with you and certainly will not respect you.

2-How others view you should not always be defended like it’s your truth.

3-There will be times when you will need to dismiss people back to the dysfunction they hold on to so fiercely.

4-Many times in your life, the right thing and the hard thing can be the same.

5-Sometimes you can love someone at the wrong time.

6-Become the person you say you are.

7-If everyone likes you, you have accomplished nothing in life.

8-Not all your problems in life will have a pretty answer; find comfort and peace in the absence of answers.

9-Your happiness is not dependent on anyone but yourself.

10-There is a difference between needing someone in your life and choosing to have someone in your life.

1-Thrive for success or thrive to be a man of values.

2-The world does not acknowledge your victimhood, only your results.

3-Hope is a dream; if you live in reality, create your own plans and execute.

4-Your looks will get someone’s attention until they no longer get others’ attention.

5-Living your life searching for validation means you will be eternally lost.

6-You can be anything, but it’s only a fantasy if you don’t try to discipline yourself.

7-People treat you how you let them.

8- Never work for survival, work for your dreams.

9-When your work becomes transactional, you have lost your dreams.

10-If you always tell the truth, the corporate world will label you a problem.

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1-Live in your reality and not in others’ illusions.

2-You may need to walk alone in truth rather than be in a group bonded by falsehood

3–Never pursue those things that compromise your identity.

4-Never lower your standards because it’s comfortable; raise your motivations to meet your purpose.

5-At some point in your life, you realize you no longer need to explain yourself to people who have no interest in understanding who you are.

6-The truth in your life is never revealed during chaos; truth is revealed in your moments of silence.

7-Your journey of knowledge is only for you; not everyone can join your path.

8-The clarity of your life mission is most prominent when you know and understand yourself.

9-The only person you need to be loyal to in life is yourself.

10-Sometimes the peace of being alone is more gratifying than the chaos of others.

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The corporate behavior towards you shows whether you are a priority.

2-Attention does not equal affection.

3-Being noticed in the workplace does not mean being valued.

4-When you are truthful to others, you destabilize the reality they created.

5-You fit in best in reality by validating others’ self-deception.

6—Most people live on the edge of reality, where their true selves never have to be confronted.

7-Always be yourself, and do not let others accept you on their terms; let them accept you under your terms

8-Do not make yourself smaller so others will accept you on your own terms, not theirs.

9-Truth and illusion cannot occupy the same space.

10-When you genuinely know who you are, you never compromise your values.

1-There is a difference between a leader you want to follow and a leader you need to follow.

2—Many want society to accept them, but ironically, we can only assume those like us.

3-You can appear very dangerous to those who live their lives based on the reality and narratives they have created.

4-Most grown adults are frightened children inside.

5-You can appear very dangerous to others who live their lives in a lie.

6-You can fit in best in reality by validating others’ self-deception.

7-The more honestly you speak, the less others like being around you.

8-Your presence can spark the part that others may not like to look at.

9-Every truth you speak may threaten others’ identity.

10-Pride cannot coexist with peace.

1-You can be shaped by pain or by love.

2-Be mindful of a mentor that provides knowledge versus wisdom.

3-Great difficulties and struggles brings great wisdom.

4-Wisdom is infinite, from the vision that others never see.

5-Thirty percent of people in your work environment complete seventy percent of the work; seventy percent of your associates are doing just enough to get by and not so little to be fired.

6-Not everyone deserves a place in your life or your heart.

7-You can hear others’ words; it’s more important to not ignore their actions.

8-There will be truths in life that you will not be able to unlearn.

9-Once life awakens you, you can never go back to ignorance.

10-There are truths in life you cannot ignore, nor escape.

1-Whoever is cold to you is not entitled to your warmth.

2-Forgiveness does not require that the person be in your physical space.

3-You will encounter many individuals in your life who are so broken that you will be able to see into their souls.

4-Many times in your life, perception is reality.

5-Many in life will dislike you because you do not serve their interests.

6-Titles may not always reflect accomplishments.

7-Imposter syndrome is far more common than you realize.

8-Your superpower to get through life is to make it your mission to understand adaptive neuroplastic resilience.

9-I cannot explain this; sometimes, when one of my patients dies, a small part of me dies with them.

10-When disrespectful to others, do not count on them being respectful to you.

1-A true friend’s trust is not recyclable.

2-A scorpion can shed its shell but will never change its instinct.

3-The person who previously harmed you always carries a weapon.

4-There will be no shortage of friends who pray for your downfall.

5-The road to success is never linear.

6-My strength throughout life has been to master “crisis competence.”

7-It took me a long time to realize that I am responsible for their lives; they are not my patients; they are a part of me.

8-Many times, you need to speak about topics that will make others uncomfortable.

9-True strength is not loud; it’s silent.

10-Those individuals who cannot control you will be frightened by you.

Moniker is a nickname or pet name. I have picked up a few over my career, so I need to share these with the rest of the world. This passage is dedicated to all those who called me less-than-noble names and were assholes (I thought you knew)

So this is for all the “tobacco chewing-, Skoll-spitting, donut- eating, trailer park living, cheese whiz sucking, cousin-marrying assholes that gave me their own terms of endearment, I thought you knew?

Sorry, not sorry….

1) Renegade-apparently, when I showed up at this world-renowned hospital, only minimal care was dedicated to cardiovascular diseases. I started doing lots of heart procedures, and they said I was a renegade for doing all these life-saving procedures. “We ain’t a Heart hospital.”

2-The wolf” from pulp fiction by Fronden surgical intensive care unit” because of constantly cleaning up the mess of others and cleaning up the dead bodies.

3- Magic hands, I really don’t know why the operating room nurses call me this.

4- Robodoc- because when I was on call, I did not fuck around.

5-Swiss Army Knife, i was used over so many disciplines of cardiovascular practice.

6-Big dog-One of my patients called my Physician associate and said she was sorry she did not make it to my clinic, “Last Night we got FUCKED up, drunk, smoked some weed, and did some COKE, can you let the ‘Big Dog’ (Dr. Durand) know.

7-Batman from Frondren Surgical Intensive Care Unit, they would always call me. I would leave the call room, see the patient, write orders and notes, and disappear back to bed, so they called me “BATMAN”.

8-Superman- A new faculty member had worked, she called me one morning, and knew I was willing to do procedures on high-risk patients. She called me and told me exactly what she wanted me to do (although she never did one, and I thought this shit better work), so she named me “SUPERMAN”!!!!!!!!

9-Mr. President- When Kanye said he was going to run for president, I told one of the schedulers that I was throwing my hat in the ring. From that day forward, she called me “Mr. President”.

10-“7-11- Because no matter what time of the morning the nurses came in , they called me 711, I was always open for business.

11-Redneck doctor-One of my patients started talking about hunting and guns, and I had a deep discussion with him about firearms. Every time he came to the clinic, he asked to be seen by “THE REDNECK DOCTOR”.

12-Pablo Escobar, Pancho Villa, Wyatt Earp, Doc Holliday, I came in after a weekend on call with a big ass mustache; they called me all the above.

13- Call me anything you want but you cannot call me a loser.